It is important to find ways to address the issues with your partner and explore options that can help you cope and plan your next steps.
– Doesn't make time for the children or you – Emotionally or physically abusive – Frequently unfaithful – Gambling
If your relationship is suffering, it is essential to start taking steps if you want to prevent an unhappy relationship from taking a toll on your mental well-being.
Sometimes, adjusting your own response to your partner's behavior can shift the conversation in ways that are helpful.
Consider individual counseling to prevent feeling depressed or helpless, to understand your role in the conflict in your relationship, and to clarify your plans for your future.1
Don't postpone having a conversation with your partner. Instead, try to identify the behaviors that are creating problems in your relationship
Be careful to limit the discussion to only one or two items requiring consideration of change and avoid having a laundry list of grievances.
– Talk about what you want in your relationship, not about what you don't want. Explain what makes you both happy and fulfilled.
You might find it helpful to offer your partner ways to support behaviors that would help them achieve a long-term change
Ending a relationship may be necessary if the issue is a major deal-breaker for you that goes against your values or needs in the relationship