The idea of having a routine in your relationship can sound boring. However, developing a routine doesn’t mean that complacency has arrived and your relationship is doomed.
While spontaneity can be exciting, the flipside can be stressful unpredictability.
Routines are comforting because they provide stability and familiarity, says Dr. Romanoff. Stability is a key ingredient in maintaining a long-term committed
: As you and your partner fall into a routine, you can adjust it so that it works for both of you and accommodates both your preferences.
Routines can help you and your partner spend time together while engaging in activities both of you enjoy
– Scheduling creates a deliberate commitment to consciously show up for your partner and the relationship, says de Llano.
– Sharing experiences and engaging in activities with your partner creates a sense of togetherness and leads to increased intimacy.
– Routines help create a sense of consistency and reliability in the relationship. This can lead to greater trust in your partner and in the relationship.
– Unpredictability can be stressful and sometimes lead to conflict if either partner's expectations aren’t met. Having a steady routine can help eliminate stress and conflict.
Routines tend to signify how partners are melding and integrating their lives. They provide checkpoints to harmonize with each other and be in alignment.