How to Recognize and Overcome It

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Negging is a form of verbal abuse, and it’s often used to manipulate or control a person.1 It involves making negative comments about

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Negging in Dating

Negging can also involve lying or exaggerating the manipulator’s own achievements in order to make themselves seem superior.

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Research shows that people with narcissistic personality disorder are often condescending towards others.3

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Negging in Relationships

Negging can be especially damaging when it’s done by someone who claims to love and care for their partner—this kind of negging

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Why Is My Partner Negging Me?

Negging can be hard to confront, but it’s essential to speak up and let your partner know that their behavior is unacceptable.

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Signs Someone Is Negging You

– Do you feel belittled or insulted? – Are they comparing you unfavorably with others? – Does it sound like they’re trying to make you doubt yourself?

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Is Negging a Form of Gaslighting?

Negging can be considered a form of gaslighting because it involves manipulating someone's emotions or reality in order to gain power and control.

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Withdrawal and Withholding

Although you and your partner may be dealing with their condescending behavior, you still have to take care of yourself

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Isolation

A person who wants to control you might try to cut off your contact with friends and family, especially if any of your loved ones express a dislike or distrust of the emotionally manipulative person.7

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Your partner might try to alienate you from your support system, causing you to doubt your decision to move on from the relationship.

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Yellow Flags in a Relationship–Signs and How to Deal With Them