Insecurity can be a painful and difficult emotion to experience. It can take a toll on your mental health as well as your relationships.
– Incessantly checking up on your partner if you’re not with them to determine their whereabouts
– Not taking your partner at their word and wanting to verify everything they tell you
These are some of the potential causes of insecurity in relationships, according to Sabrina Romanoff, PsyD, a clinical psychologist and professor at Yeshiva University in New York City.
People who have been in unhealthy relationships where their partner was untrustworthy or treated them poorly, might hold onto those emotions and carry them into their new relationships.
People with low self-confidence may experience insecurity in their relationships because they may not believe they are worthy of the love or support of their partner.
When they do find fulfilling and healthy relationships, this might spark their fear of loss, because love was never guaranteed or freely given in the past.
Social anxiety can cause you to be overly critical of yourself and make it difficult for you to trust your partner’s actions and intentions.
People who tend to be perfectionistic are usually more prone to impostor syndrome because they never live up to their unrealistic expectations for themselves
– They tend to compensate for their perceived flaws by behaving in ways that they think will make them more lovable to their partner, which might not be authentic to who they really are.