Signs of Manipulation in Relationships

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Manipulating someone means that a person is using mental distortion and emotional exploitation to influence and control others.

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Signs of Manipulation in a Relationship

– Gaslighting – Passive-aggressive behavior – Lying and blaming – Threats and coerciveness – Withdrawal and withholding

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A person who is gaslighting you may lie to you, blame you for things, and minimize what you're feeling. An example of manipulation in the form of gaslighting might include phrases like, "You're crazy," or "You're too sensitive."

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Passive-Aggressive Behavior

As opposed to using direct communication, a person who behaves passive-aggressively doesn't express how they're really feeling.

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Lying and Blaming

Though many of us tell "white lies," or lies that we consider harmless, a person who is emotionally manipulative will likely tell lies to mislead you.

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Someone who is emotionally manipulative will most likely avoid taking responsibility for their actions. They might blatantly lie or exaggerate

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Threats and Coerciveness

Someone who coerces you—using threats or force to get you to do something—is being emotionally manipulative

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Withdrawal and Withholding

Another sign of emotional manipulation is if your partner withdraws from you. Maybe they give you the silent treatment if you are doing something they don't want you to do.

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Isolation

A person who wants to control you might try to cut off your contact with friends and family, especially if any of your loved ones express a dislike or distrust of the emotionally manipulative person.7

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