What Couples Should Know About the Silent Treatment

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If you're like most people, you've probably heard the old adage, "silence is golden." But when it comes to relationships, is that really the case? Most psychologists indicate that it depends on the situation.

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Silence vs. Silent Treatment

There are times in relationships when being silent is acceptable and even productive. For instance, a couple, or even just one partner, may take a thoughtful

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The key, then, is knowing how to differentiate between the silent treatment—a tactic used by abusive and controlling people—and other forms of silence in a partnership.

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Identifying Silent Treatment

People use the silent treatment to control the situation or conversation. They also use it as a tool to avoid taking responsibility or to admit wrongdoing.

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When Silence Is Abusive

If you have ever found yourself in a situation where someone is giving you the silent treatment, it can be a little unnerving. They may refuse to talk to you or even acknowledge your presence.

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– Use the silent treatment to put you in your place – Give you the cold shoulder for days or weeks at a time

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Research

Silence is used as a weapon to cut off meaningful conversations, stop the flow of information, and ultimately hurt the other person.

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How to Respond

To resolve the issue, both partners need to take responsibility for their behavior and try to empathize with their partner.

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A Word From Verywell

If you're on the receiving end of the silent treatment in an abusive relationship, don't blame yourself. Your partner's silence is not your fault

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