While you’ve probably heard of dating criteria like physical attraction, emotional compatibility, and sexual chemistry
– Checking in – Getting to know one another – Building a deeper connection – Making plans together
According to Dr. Romanoff, these are some of the purposes textual communication can serve in relationships:
– Who tends to initiate text conversations? – What is the function or purpose of the texts you send versus the ones your partner sends?
People with anxious attachment styles tend to use texting as a way to feel connected or secure in the relationship.
Textual compatibility really comes down to the amount of fusion or differentiation partners are seeking in their relationship.
Being textually compatible with your partner can reduce stress, anxiety, and friction around communication, making it more seamless.
If you and your partner approach texting differently, it's helpful to communicate and explain your preferences around it.
It’s important for partners to communicate their needs around texting—which are often incompatible—and then make a mutual effort to meet each other in the middle.