What to Do If You're Married but Lonely

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You don’t have to be alone to feel lonely. While being in a committed relationship might seem like the solution to the feeling of loneliness, it is possible to be married and lonely.

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Signs of Being Married and Lonely

Living with another person isn’t a cure for loneliness. It is your feelings of being connected to your spouse that keep you from feeling isolated and alone

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– You feel lonely, even when you're together. It feels like there is a separation between you that you don't know how to fix.

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You don't talk to each other

Perhaps you feel like your spouse isn't interested in what you say. Or maybe you just don't feel like telling them about the ins and outs of your day.

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You find reasons to avoid your spouse

– This might involve staying at work late, finding things to stay busy away from your partner, or simply scrolling social media to avoid interacting with them.

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Greater commitment

. Sometimes this might only affect one person in the relationship, but in many cases, both partners may be left feeling isolated and cut off from their partner.

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Work and family

One of the most common reasons why married couples feel as if they are drifting apart is due to the pressures from family and work.

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Stressful event

Sometimes the challenges that couples face together can create rifts in a relationship. A stressful or traumatic event can put a strain on even the strongest of relationships

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Unrealistic expectations

In some cases, your feelings of loneliness might have less to do with your spouse and more to do with other needs that aren’t being met.

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Making unrealistic comparisons to relationships you see portrayed on social media can also contribute to feelings of loneliness.

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