Why We Get the Ick, According to Therapists

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The ick” is a phrase that has permeated pop culture—particularly in the dating sphere—and refers to losing romantic or sexual interest in someone you were once attracted to. True to its moniker,

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What Exactly Is The Ick?

Psychologically, once we get this feeling it can cause us to feel unpleasant feelings toward the other to the point that we start retracting from the relationship.

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She adds that the ick can strike at any point in the relationship, from that very first date to after years of marriage.

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Why Do We Get The Ick?

This is just one example of a million potential scenarios. You can get the ick after seeing your partner interact poorly with someone else

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Red or Yellow Flags

Amber Trueblood, LMFT, says that we can experience the ick after observing a yellow or red flag in our partner.

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I cannot emphasize enough that it is imperative to listen to your gut feelings when abusive behaviors begin to show to prevent us from falling

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Growing Apart

We are forever evolving, and sometimes that translates to a natural increase in emotional distance between you and your partner.

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Stories of “Crazy Exes”

Talking about old flames is common, especially when you’re first starting to date someone new. Do pay attention to the language your partner uses when discussing those they’ve dated in the pas

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a potential mate describes their exes as crazy instead of taking 50% of the responsibility for any craziness that may have existed in past relationships,

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